Mark

Oh. Okay sextalk and oh, okay, ends, and oh, okay, stupidasfuck (that last one's unrelated, whether it exists or not), and oh, okay anyone else who is understandably squicked as all get out by my silly username.

I will make a whole other, new and shiny one, and join your community, and be all up in your comments and posts and stuff.

Scary, huh? Ooooooooohhhhhhhh...spooooooookkkkyyyyyyyy (appropriate music comes with that).

Heh, it'll be like I'm not even real, then, much less pedosexually oriented.

God, that's gonna so suck for you guys. 'Cause like, omg, you might actually be being commented at by me, and be like, all unawares and stuff. Creeepehhh! Holy fuck, worser, you might comment back, lmao.

For the record, nah, I don't blame ya, but I still think you're kinda silly.

Ignorance is bliss, yes, I agree.

Ah well. I tried. Some emails are better than others. I keep in mind what my stepdad always said: "you'll have this"

Alternately:

From the maintainer of sextalk

Laughing (kind of)...needless to say, it'd be a total and complete piece of cake to just change my username, and this maintainer would (already not overly wise in my estimation) would be no more the wiser.

At all.

At least I now know I wasn't just imagining things when I hypothesized about this issue and place back yonder.


Heh, one less voice in a place where there aren't many to begin with - although that does feel a bit like sour grapes, I will confess.

I have been meaning to write this short thing up for a little while, so I'll just do it now.

About the username.

Yes, it would be much easier to just change the thing, or drop the account and open a new one. I could have the identical user information, even, and entries. You know, be the same person I will be, regardless of what username I use to identify myself by.

Easier.

It was created back in 2003, at LJ, on a whim in the first place: an accurate and quick assessment of one basic part of me. Now, however, this account and this username is both dated and laden with baggage, not to mention judgment-inspiring and head-turning (for all the wrong reasons).

After it's original creation, and the departure of that first real life girlfriend, yes, it was purposefully kept, so that no next ones need fool themselves about who I might or might not be; so that any next ones who came along would be in receipt of information about me before we even shared our first words; so that any potential next ones might stumble upon, or search out and instantly recognize me for who I am - and if interested, click. However, given that insanejournal is not exactly the liveliest place in the world, and that there are almost countless other places I can exist (and do in a few), where I can continue my journey and quest, it's not really required any longer even as a tool for that.

I don't like that it makes people uncomfortable. I don't like that it makes people cringe. I don't like that knee-jerk reaction is nearly invariable. I don't like that I have to think twice before every time I comment in a community that has none of my friends. I don't like, that in a forum like insanejournal, where the average age of users is around 19, my username automatically makes me look like a predator - and that assumptions are quickly made that that can be the only reason I am here.

Easier.

So yes, for me, personally, I find it no longer necessary to retain the cumbersome baggage of this username.

However, I will. For the exact reason that it would be easier not to, I will. Ease should not always be a primary consideration in one's decisions, even though, obviously, it is the easier thing to do. If all of civilization's players always did that which was most easy, we should be no where at all.

Easier, yes, but mediocre, too. And, to me, mediocrity is the enemy of both life and advancement.

So um, no.

After all, it is also easy enough for someone to come over here and read about me. It is easy enough for someone to learn that I do not fit their preconceptions. It is easy enough for someone to come over here and reach beyond the jerk of their knee. If these people choose a complacent mediocrity via their acceptance of stereotype, of media-defined definitions of things in their world and universe, of judgments based on 15 characters gathered into three words, without investigating and learning for themselves, well then, that is their decision, but I'm not going to help anyone out in their quest for mediocrity by making things more comfortable for them, even if it might be easier for me.

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While this entry has been waiting in coming, I was inspired to write it on up, this morning, when I discovered some hanky-panky in sextalk. I'd joined a few days ago, or last week, and yesterday commented upon (answered) a question someone had asked. The question happened to be about shaving "down there," and was obviously asked by someone younger than the median age at insanejournal. It happened to be a question, having already had two girlfriends who shaved themselves "down there" that I had some knowledge of. In my response, I linked to hairfacts.com, and also mentioned that my past girl friend had found these narrow headed razors that were much easier to use than the kind made for legs and armpits.

That was all. There was no "look me up, sometime, darling." There was no, "so how much hair is there to remove?" There was not even an "awwww," which in my personal journal might have been in order. There was not even a trip over to her own lj or user information. Again, it's not why I'm here, and in that particular case, not what motivated me to respond. My response, much like my existence here, was based upon the simplicity that I had and sometimes have good information to offer a reader.

This morning, however, in reading my friendslist, I noticed no entries were coming up from sextalk. So, it being no mystery as to the possible causes of this, I took a trip over there. Yes, I was listed in the "watched by" section, but conspicuously absent from the "members" section. I belonged, for sure, yesterday, else the friendslocked post (it's been deleted, btw) to which I responded shall never have shown up on my list. Since membership was still unmoderated, I rejoined. I don't know if the community will avail itself of the ban_set thing or not, yet, and I won't, until there is a post to which I feel I can valuably respond.

Maybe it was just some glitch, I don't know. If I find myself absent from the list, again, then perhaps next time the community will have gone to a moderated membership. This is fine, and I won't complain or say anything. If someone wants to react this way, then fine, but I'm going to force them to acknowledge their mediocrity, if nothing else.

There are very few friendslocked entries, here, after all: an open book, free of charge, with characters, and words and pages beyond its cover.

I may make another journal, here, however, so that I may interact without the expected, though entirely understood preconceptions. I have had much fun, after all, being (on the outside) just another guy over on livejournal.